Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Issues Therapy in Utah County
If fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting a partner, or the same relationship patterns keep showing up, attachment-based therapy can help you understand why, and build a steadier way of connecting with others. Licensed therapists in Pleasant Grove, Orem, and online.
- Attachment-based therapy
- Most major insurance accepted
- In person or online
What this can sound like
- I need constant reassurance that they still want me here.
- I push people away before they can leave first.
- I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
- I don’t know how to be close to someone without losing myself.
- Every unanswered text feels like the beginning of the end.
These patterns can shift with support.
Why Relationships Can Feel So Unsteady
The way we connect with others is shaped early, often long before we have the words to understand it. Attachment patterns formed in childhood or past relationships can show up later as fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting a partner, or a persistent sense that closeness isn’t quite safe.
These patterns aren’t a character flaw, and they’re not permanent. With attachment-based therapy, it’s possible to understand where they came from and build a steadier, more secure way of relating to others, and to yourself.
This work is done individually, whether you’re currently in a relationship, between relationships, or simply want to understand your own patterns better.
Attachment patterns are learned. That means they can also be unlearned.
What This Can Look Like
You may recognize one of these, or several at once.
Fear of abandonment
A persistent worry that a partner will leave, even without clear evidence that anything is wrong.
Needing constant reassurance
Frequently seeking confirmation that a partner still cares, and feeling unsettled without it.
Difficulty trusting partners
Struggling to believe good intentions, even from someone who has been consistent and caring.
Pushing people away
Self-sabotaging a relationship or creating distance, sometimes to avoid being hurt first.
Overanalyzing interactions
Replaying texts, tone, or small interactions for hidden meaning or signs something is wrong.
Jealousy rooted in fear
Possessiveness or jealousy that comes less from the relationship itself and more from a fear of loss.
Discomfort with being alone
Difficulty tolerating time apart from a partner, or moving quickly from one relationship to the next.
Repeating patterns
Noticing the same relationship dynamics show up again and again, across different partners.
Who We Help
Support meets you wherever you are, whether you’re in a relationship now or working on these patterns on your own.
People with anxious attachment
A pattern of needing closeness and reassurance, paired with fear that it could be taken away.
People who struggle to trust
Difficulty believing a partner’s intentions, even when their actions have been consistent.
People repeating relationship patterns
Noticing the same dynamics or conflicts show up across different relationships.
People recovering from broken trust
Rebuilding a sense of safety after infidelity, inconsistency, or a difficult past relationship.
People currently in a relationship
Working through anxiety that’s showing up in a relationship that’s otherwise going well.
People wanting to understand their patterns
Curious about their attachment style and how early relationships shaped how they connect now.
How Therapy Helps
Our therapists draw from a few approaches, depending on what’s driving your specific patterns.
Attachment-based therapy
Understanding how early relationships shaped your patterns of trust, closeness, and fear in relationships today. Learn about attachment-based therapy.
Individual therapy for relationship anxiety
A confidential space to work through anxious thoughts and patterns, whether or not you’re currently in a relationship.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Work through the anxious thought spirals, catastrophizing, or reassurance-seeking that often accompany relationship anxiety. Learn about CBT.
Trauma-informed care
When attachment patterns are rooted in childhood experiences, trauma-focused approaches can help address what’s underneath. Learn about trauma-focused therapy.
Couples-adjacent support
Some of our therapists also offer couples counseling, which can complement individual work when both partners are open to it.
What Working Together Looks Like
Every person’s patterns are different, but support often follows this path.
Reach out
Schedule an appointment online or call us, and we’ll help match you with a therapist.
Understand your patterns
Your therapist helps you identify your attachment style and where these patterns first took shape.
Build self-trust & regulation
Tools for managing anxiety in the moment, rather than reacting from fear.
Practice new relational patterns
Small, practical shifts in how you communicate needs and tolerate uncertainty in relationships.
Carry it forward
Applying what you’ve learned to your current or future relationships, at your own pace.
Meet Therapists Who Support Attachment & Relationship Anxiety
This is a genuinely small list. These three therapists each list attachment-based therapy as a treatment approach, alongside relationship-focused specialties. Call us and we can also help match you more broadly if none of these feels right.
3 therapists
Hannah Wolverton
LMFT
Orem · Virtual
Attachment wounds, childhood attachment trauma & conflict patterns
Meet Hannah →
Ivy Christiansen
LMFT
Pleasant Grove · Virtual
Attachment-based therapy, relationship issues & family conflict
Meet Ivy →
Sierra Livermore
AMFT
Orem · Virtual
Attachment-based therapy & couples counseling
Meet Sierra →
Not sure who to choose? Call (801) 410-0542 or schedule online, and our team will help you find a good fit. See all therapist profiles →
Insurance & Payment
Therapy for relationship anxiety and attachment patterns is often covered by most major insurance plans, particularly when paired with a diagnosis like anxiety, subject to your benefits. We accept most major plans, including Select Health, Blue Cross Blue Shield, UnitedHealthcare, Aetna, and others.
Our team will verify your benefits and talk through your options, including self-pay, before your first appointment. Check your coverage →
Frequently Asked Questions
What is an attachment style, in simple terms?
Attachment style describes patterns in how we connect with others, shaped largely by early relationships. Common patterns include anxious attachment (fear of abandonment, need for reassurance), avoidant attachment (discomfort with closeness), and secure attachment. Most people are a mix, and patterns can shift with support.
Is this the same as couples therapy?
Not primarily. This page focuses on individual therapy for relationship anxiety and attachment patterns, which can be useful whether or not you’re currently in a relationship. A couple of the therapists listed above also offer couples counseling, so ask if that’s a better fit for your situation.
Can this help even if I’m not in a relationship right now?
Yes. Attachment patterns show up outside of relationships too, in friendships, family, and how you relate to yourself. Many people do this work between relationships or before starting a new one.
How is this different from your general anxiety page?
Our anxiety therapy page covers anxiety broadly. This page focuses specifically on anxiety that shows up in relationships and close connections, often rooted in attachment patterns from earlier in life.
Can this help with jealousy?
Often, yes, particularly when jealousy is rooted in fear of loss or past experiences rather than anything happening in the relationship itself. Therapy can help you understand what’s underneath it.
Do these patterns always come from childhood?
Often, but not always. Attachment patterns are shaped by early relationships, but they can also develop or shift because of experiences in adult relationships, including betrayal or inconsistency from a partner.
My partner thinks I’m “too much.” Can this help?
Individual therapy can help you understand your patterns and build more comfortable ways of expressing needs, regardless of how a partner has responded. It’s worth noting that needing connection and reassurance is a normal human need, even when it feels intense.
Can this be done online?
Yes. All of the therapists listed above offer secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth therapy anywhere in Utah. In-person sessions are available in Pleasant Grove and Orem.
Is this covered by insurance?
Often, yes, particularly when paired with a diagnosis like anxiety, subject to your benefits. We accept most major insurance plans, and our team will verify your coverage before your first appointment. Check your coverage →
Ready to Build Steadier Connections?
Understanding your patterns is the first step. Schedule an appointment in Pleasant Grove, Orem, or online.
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